Before anything else, let me say this plainly: If the church has hurt you…If you are grieving what faith used to be for you…If you feel disappointed, exhausted, angry, or quietly heartbroken by Christians or Christian institutions…
There is room for you. There is space for your grief. There is no rush to “fix” it or spiritualize it away.
Jesus never scolded people for being wounded by religion. He consistently made room for them.
Many of us are carrying church-shaped bruises these days. Some are fresh. Some go way back. Some are the result of hypocrisy, exclusion, abuse of power, or faith used as a weapon rather than a healing balm. If you’ve stepped back, grown quieter, or are holding onto a mustard seed of faith with open hands instead of clenched fists—that doesn’t make you faithless. It makes you honest.
So, let’s move forward…together, with compassion for ourselves and one another.
In the midst of all the noise, outrage, and confusion swirling around faith, politics and culture, I want to name my line.
Love.
Not vaguely sentimental love. Not politeness. Not “bless your heart” spirituality. Not the “real love” that Mary J. Blige sang about…But the kind of love Jesus lived, taught, and embodied. The love that costs something and gives something at the same time.
Some may argue that Scripture can be contradictory and unclear. However, when it comes to love, Jesus was remarkably clear.
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength… and you shall love your neighbor as yourself” (Mark 12:30–31).
“By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another” (John 13:35).
“Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you” (Luke 6:27).
“Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful” (Luke 6:36).
This is the line Jesus draws again and again.
It’s not about who’s in and who’s out (though He does explore what happens to those who share or withhold love in Matthew 25:31-46).
It’s not about who’s right and who’s wrong…or who wins or dominates or shouts the loudest.
It’s about one word…Love.
That doesn’t mean love never confronts or avoids telling the truth. Jesus was loving and honest, compassionate and courageous. But love was always the point.
If what we’re doing doesn’t look like love, sound like love, or move toward love, it’s time to pause and reassess.
Here’s some good news that often gets lost: following Jesus was never meant to feel like carrying the weight of the world alone. We will face triumphs and trials, joy and pain (“give it to ’em, Rob Base!“), calm and chaos…but we don’t have to face these things alone.
Jesus invites the tired and burdened to rest (Matthew 11:28). He feeds people before he teaches them. He notices outsiders. He laughs at dinner tables. He tells stories with humor, irony, and surprise. He welcomes the marginalized and outcast. He trusts flawed people and seems oddly unconcerned with perfection.
The United Methodist tradition puts language to this grace-filled reality. We believe that God’s grace meets us before we know we need it (prevenient grace), walks with us as we grow (sanctifying grace), and never lets go when we stumble (justifying grace). We believe (or at least I believe) that grace is not fragile, love is not scarce, and hope is not naïve.
So maybe this season isn’t about fixing the church all at once…or at all? Maybe it’s about being the church in small, faithful ways.
We can show the love Jesus calls us to embody when we choose kindness when cruelty is easier, practice generosity in a culture of scarcity, listen instead of label, laugh when joy feels rebellious, authentically show up with a commitment to be open and honest.
Maybe this love Jesus calls us to is about embodying the fruits of the Spirit, not as a checklist, but as a way of life: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22–23). It’s not flashy or trendy (or at least it shouldn’t be), but it does change lives.
If you’re still reading this…please know that you don’t have to carry the whole church on your shoulders. You don’t have to argue with everyone. You don’t have to explain yourself constantly. You’re allowed to choose love. You’re allowed to choose joy. You’re allowed to choose Jesus, even when others distort him.
This is the line I’m committing to…to love God and love people, to tell the truth with humility, to make room for grace, and to trust that the Spirit is still at work.
If you ever find yourself saying, “I’m not sure where I fit anymore,” you’re not alone. Here’s some good news…The table Jesus sets is wide. There’s room for doubt and hope, laughter and tears, faith that’s confident and faith that’s hanging on by a thread.
This is the line…or at least my line…Love still leads us. Grace still holds us. Hope still matters. The Spirit is still moving
And I still believe that is more than enough.

