“Remember the Sabbath day and treat it as holy.” — Exodus 20:8 (CEB)

If you ask someone how they’re doing these days, one answer rises above all the rest: “Busy.”

Busy has become a badge of honor. We wear exhaustion like a medal of achievement. We fill every hour of every day, answering emails late into the evening, shuttling children from activity to activity, checking our phones before our feet hit the floor each morning. Somewhere along the way, we’ve come to believe that our value is measured by our productivity.

But God never asked us to live this way. In fact, one of God’s very first gifts to humanity wasn’t another task to complete…it was an invitation to rest.

The Bible begins with a rhythm. For six days, God creates. Light and darkness. Sky and sea. Plants and animals. Humanity itself. And then, on the seventh day, God rests.

Not because God is tired. Not because the work couldn’t continue. God rests because rest is holy.

The Sabbath isn’t an interruption to life; it is woven into the fabric of creation itself. Before there was Israel. Before there were commandments. Before there was even sin, there was Sabbath.

When God later gives the Ten Commandments, the command to remember the Sabbath isn’t simply about religious observance. It’s about reclaiming our humanity. Israel had just been liberated from slavery in Egypt, a place where there was always another brick to make, another quota to meet, another demand on their time.

God was teaching them that they were no longer slaves. Their worth no longer depended upon endless production. Neither does ours.

Jesus lived with extraordinary purpose, but never with frantic urgency.

Throughout the Gospels, we repeatedly find Jesus withdrawing to lonely places to pray. After long days of healing crowds, he stepped away. Before major decisions, he sought solitude. Following emotionally draining moments, even after hearing of John the Baptist’s death, Jesus invited the disciples, “Come away by yourselves to a deserted place and rest a while” (Mark 6:31).

Notice what Jesus doesn’t say. He doesn’t tell them to push harder. He doesn’t tell them to squeeze in one more miracle. He doesn’t tell them to answer one more request. He tells them to rest.

Perhaps one of the most spiritual things we can do is stop long enough to remember that the world continues turning without our constant effort.

God remains God. We do not.

Modern research continues to confirm what Scripture has taught for thousands of years.

People who regularly rest sleep better, experience lower rates of anxiety and depression, have healthier hearts, stronger immune systems, improved creativity, better memory, and greater resilience in the face of stress. Chronic overwork, by contrast, increases the risk of burnout, cardiovascular disease, and mental health struggles. Organizations such as the World Health Organization have identified long working hours as a significant public health concern.

Psychologists also note that our brains need periods of recovery. During moments of rest, our minds process experiences, consolidate memories, solve problems creatively, and restore emotional balance. We are not machines designed for uninterrupted output.

God knew this long before neuroscientists did.

Interestingly, many of the countries that consistently rank among the happiest in the world tend to embrace a different relationship with work and rest.

Nations such as Finland, Denmark, Sweden, Iceland, and the Netherlands often provide generous paid vacation, robust parental leave, universal healthcare, and stronger social safety nets. Several European countries have also experimented successfully with four-day work weeks or shorter work hours while maintaining, or even increasing, productivity. These societies are certainly not perfect, but they challenge the assumption that working more always leads to living better.

Here in the United States, we often celebrate busyness. Elsewhere, many people intentionally celebrate balance. Maybe we have something to learn.

Of course, Sabbath is not simply about leisure. A day spent endlessly scrolling social media or worrying about Monday isn’t really Sabbath.

Biblically, Sabbath is about delight. It is time intentionally set apart for worship, relationships, recreation, gratitude, and remembering who we are.

The Hebrew understanding of Sabbath reminds us that our identity comes before our activity. We are beloved children of God before we are employees. Before we are parents. Before we are volunteers. Before we are leaders. Before we accomplish anything at all.

The Wesleyan tradition has long emphasized the importance of practices, or what John Wesley called the “means of grace”, that help us grow in love of God and neighbor. Worship, prayer, Scripture, Christian conversation, acts of mercy, and service all shape our lives. Sabbath fits naturally within this vision. Rest is not the absence of discipleship; it is one of the ways God forms us into healthier, more compassionate disciples.

From a United Methodist perspective, grace is always at work in every part of life, including our need for renewal. God’s grace invites us not only to serve faithfully but also to receive God’s gifts with gratitude. Healthy discipleship is not constant striving. It is learning to live in rhythms of work, worship, rest, justice, compassion, and joy.

Weekly Sabbath is essential. But sometimes life calls for something more.

Pastors, teachers, healthcare workers, caregivers, first responders, nonprofit leaders, parents, and countless others often spend themselves in service to others. Over time, even meaningful work can become exhausting.

That is why many professions encourage sabbaticals, renewal leaves, retreats, or extended vacations. These aren’t rewards for surviving. They are investments in long-term health.

Throughout Scripture, we see seasons built into God’s design. There are seasons of planting and harvest. Seasons of mourning and dancing. Seasons of wilderness and seasons of abundance. Ecclesiastes reminds us that there is “a season for every matter under heaven.”

Even the land itself was commanded to rest every seventh year. Creation was never intended to operate at maximum capacity forever. Neither are we.

Rest rarely happens by accident. We often have to protect it. Healthy boundaries may include:

• Saying “no” to commitments that exceed our capacity.
• Taking vacation time rather than letting it accumulate.
• Turning off work notifications during evenings or days off.
• Keeping one day each week different from the others.
• Prioritizing family meals and meaningful friendships.
• Spending time outdoors.
• Worshiping regularly.
• Making space for silence and prayer.

Boundaries are not barriers against love. They are the structures that make love sustainable.

God cares about every part of who we are. That means caring for our bodies, minds, emotions, and spirits.

Regular exercise strengthens both body and mind. Routine medical checkups help identify problems before they become crises. Counseling or therapy can provide healing, resilience, and wisdom through life’s challenges. Seeking help for our mental or emotional health is not a sign of weak faith. It is an act of faithful stewardship of the life God has entrusted to us. Healthy eating, sufficient sleep, meaningful relationships, laughter, and recreation all become ways of honoring the gift of life.

The command to “love your neighbor as yourself” assumes something important: You cannot continually pour from an empty cup. Self-care is not selfish. It is one way we become more available to love others well.

As I am traveling through a season of renewal leave, I do so with deep gratitude for this congregation and for the gift of time to rest, learn, pray, and be renewed.

My hope is that this season is not only meaningful for me but becomes an invitation for all of us.

Maybe you don’t need a month away. But maybe you need one afternoon without your phone. Maybe you need to take the vacation you’ve been postponing. Maybe you need to call your doctor. Maybe you need to begin seeing a counselor. Maybe you need to spend an hour in prayer, or on a hiking trail, or around the dinner table with people you love. 

Maybe you simply need permission to rest. If so, receive this as that permission. Not from me. From God.

Because before God asks anything of us, God first reminds us who we are. Beloved. And beloved people need not earn the right to rest.

It has been God’s gift all along.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about home. About belonging. About the places and people that remind us who we are.

The more I think about it, the more convinced I become that ministry isn’t really about churches. It’s about helping people come home.

Not necessarily to a building. Not even to a denomination. But to themselves. To one another. To God.

When I was younger, I thought ministry was mostly about preaching good sermons, leading meaningful worship, offering pastoral care, and helping a church grow. Those things certainly matter. They remain sacred work.

But the longer I’ve served as a pastor, the more I believe ministry is something much simpler and much harder. It’s paying attention. It’s noticing who is standing alone after worship. It’s remembering someone’s name. It’s making one more phone call than your calendar says you have time for. It’s asking a question and then listening long enough to hear the real answer. It’s refusing to let anyone become invisible.

I’ve come to believe that the opposite of ministry isn’t inactivity. It’s indifference.

One of the most striking things about Jesus is not simply that he loved people. It’s that he noticed them…The woman who had spent years suffering quietly…The blind man everyone else tried to silence…The tax collector hiding in a tree…The children the disciples considered interruptions…The Samaritan woman everyone else walked past.

Again and again, Jesus saw the people others overlooked. Perhaps that’s where ministry begins. Not with programs, but with attention.

Our culture often tells us that bigger is always better. More followers. More influence. More success. More productivity.

But the kingdom of God seems to move differently. One conversation. One meal. One act of compassion. One relationship at a time.

That doesn’t mean numbers don’t matter. Every number represents a person. Every person has a story. Every story bears the image of God.

But ministry was never meant to be about collecting people. It’s about caring for them.

As United Methodists, we often describe ourselves as people who are making disciples of Jesus Christ for the transformation of the world. Sometimes we hear that mission and immediately think globally. Changing systems. Ending injustice. Building a better society.

We should be committed to that work.  The gospel has public consequences. Faith that never leaves the sanctuary isn’t much like the faith Jesus lived.

But transformation almost always begins personally. It begins when someone who has felt forgotten realizes they have been seen. When someone carrying shame discovers grace. When someone convinced they are alone discovers community. When someone searching for home finds a people who say, “We’re glad you’re here.”

That’s ministry. Not because pastors make it happen. But because the whole church does.

One of my favorite words in the New Testament is hospitality. The Greek word, philoxenia, literally means “love of the stranger” and “friend of the stranger.” Not tolerance. Not obligation. Love.

I wonder what would happen if Christians became known for that again. Not for winning arguments. Not for drawing sharper lines. Not for protecting institutions.

But for loving strangers until they became friends. And friends until they became family.

Perhaps that’s what the church is supposed to be. A community where nobody has to earn a seat at the table. Where questions are welcomed. Where differences are not erased but honored. Where justice and mercy embrace. Where grace is practiced instead of merely preached.

I’ve become convinced that every church is building something. Some build walls. Some build stages. Some build reputations.

I hope we’re building tables. Long tables. Messy tables. Diverse tables. Tables with enough empty chairs that no one wonders whether there’s room for them.

Because every empty chair quietly says, “We’re expecting someone.”

Maybe that’s what ministry has always been. Preparing places for people we haven’t met yet. Living in such a way that another person catches a glimpse of God’s welcome. Creating communities where home is possible and belonging is real.

The beautiful thing is that none of us has to be ordained to do that. Parents do it around kitchen tables. Teachers do it in classrooms. Neighbors do it across fences. Friends do it over coffee. Children do it on playgrounds. Retirees do it through handwritten notes.

Every act of kindness becomes an act of ministry. Every moment of compassion becomes a glimpse of the kingdom of God. And every time we widen the circle just a little more, we participate in the work Jesus began long ago.

The world doesn’t simply need bigger churches. It needs bigger tables. Places where every person can discover what so many of us have spent our lives searching for: A place to belong. A place to breathe. A place to be loved. A place to call home.

I wonder if one of the deepest human needs isn’t happiness…Or success…Or even love.

I wonder if it’s belonging.

Long before we ask, “am I successful?” or “am I enough?” we ask a quieter question: “Is there a place for me?”

It’s a question children ask on the playground. Teenagers ask in school hallways. Adults ask in boardrooms, churches, neighborhoods, and around dinner tables.

It’s the question behind nearly every insecurity. Will they accept me? Will they understand me? If they really knew me, would they still want me here?

The truth is…most of us spend an extraordinary amount of energy trying to earn belonging. We perform. We edit ourselves. We hide the parts of our story we fear others won’t understand. We laugh when everyone else laughs. We stay quiet when our opinions might make us stand out. We slowly become strangers to ourselves in hopes of being accepted by someone else.

But acceptance isn’t the same thing as belonging. 

Acceptance often comes with conditions. You can stay…as long as…

Belonging says something altogether different. Come as you are.

One of the things that continually draws me to Jesus is how often he created belonging before anything else. Long before people changed their lives, Jesus shared meals with them. Long before they had their theology figured out, he invited them to walk beside him. Long before society deemed them worthy, Jesus looked them in the eye and called them by name. Tax collectors…Women…Foreigners…People living with illness…People everyone else had written off.

The religious establishment frequently asked, “Why does he welcome those people?”

Jesus never seemed particularly interested in answering that question. He just kept making the circle wider.

That’s the image I can’t shake. Not a fortress protecting who’s in, but a table with leaves added because more guests keep arriving.

As United Methodists, we often speak about God’s grace before we speak about anything else. John Wesley called it prevenient grace, the grace of God that is already at work before we ever recognize it. Before we believe. Before we understand. Before we clean ourselves up. Before we even think to seek God…God is already seeking us.

I find that breathtaking. It means belonging begins with God, not with us. We don’t earn our place in God’s family. We discover that we’ve been invited all along.

Of course, churches don’t always reflect that reality. Sometimes we’ve confused holiness with gatekeeping. Sometimes we’ve mistaken uniformity for unity. Sometimes we’ve communicated, intentionally or unintentionally, that certain people belong more than others.

History gives us plenty of examples. People of different races. Women called to lead. Divorced people. People asking honest questions. Members of the LGBTQ+ community. People with disabilities. People struggling with addiction. People whose politics don’t mirror our own. People carrying doubts instead of certainty. The list goes on.

The church has too often acted as though belonging were a prize awarded after someone meets the requirements. Jesus seemed to reverse the order. Belong first. Grow together. Be transformed through love.

I don’t think inclusion is about lowering standards. I think it’s about remembering whose table it is…It’s Christ’s. And Christ has always had a habit of pulling up another chair.

One of my favorite images of the church isn’t an institution or a building. It’s a family meal.

Not because families are perfect…far from it. But because at our best, families make room. They learn one another’s stories. They celebrate victories. They sit through grief. They disagree. They forgive. They keep showing up.

Real belonging doesn’t erase differences. It teaches us to love across them.

Maybe that’s why the Apostle Paul described the church as a body instead of a collection of identical parts. Different gifts. Different experiences. Different perspectives. One Spirit. One purpose. One love.

Imagine if churches became known less for the people they excluded and more for the people who finally felt like they could breathe. Imagine if someone walked through the doors carrying shame and left carrying hope. Imagine if questions were welcomed instead of feared. Imagine if diversity wasn’t tolerated but celebrated as evidence of God’s wonderfully creative imagination. Imagine if everyone who entered heard, not merely with words but with actions: “We’re really glad you’re here.”

I think people are starving for that. Not because they want a church that tells them whatever they want to hear. But because they long for a community where they can tell the truth about who they are…Where grace is more than a slogan…Where love is more than an idea…Where belonging is not the finish line…It’s the starting place.

Perhaps that’s what heaven has been preparing us to practice all along. Not deciding who belongs. But discovering that God’s welcome has always been wider than our imagination.

Maybe that’s the good news we need in a world that keeps drawing lines. God keeps setting a bigger table. And there is still room.

There’s an old saying: Home is where your heart is.

I’ve always liked that phrase, though I’m not sure I’ve ever fully believed it. Or maybe I’ve spent most of my life trying to figure out exactly what it means.

I do believe that almost any place can become home. At the same time, I think there is something profoundly beautiful about having a literal place that feels like it has wrapped its arms around you…a place where your shoulders relax the moment you arrive, where the air somehow feels familiar, where you don’t have to perform or prove anything. You’re simply…home.

When that sense of home is absent, whether physically or emotionally, it can leave an ache that’s difficult to describe.

As a clergy family in the United Methodist itinerant system, “home” has always been a complicated concept. For generations, Methodist pastors have understood that they may be appointed to a new congregation annually. Our roots are often planted in soil we know may not be permanent.

I’ve never lived in the town where I was born. I no longer have family in the city where I was raised. Over the years, we’ve packed boxes, unpacked boxes, learned new streets, met new neighbors, found new grocery stores, and discovered new favorite restaurants. We’ve said countless hellos and more goodbyes than we’d have chosen.

Ironically, we’ve now lived in Fort Wayne longer than we’ve lived anywhere else.

And yet…I sometimes wonder if this place feels like home for my family. I wonder if my children will someday think of this city as the place they came from. I wonder if my wife has found the rootedness that every person longs for. Truthfully, I’m not sure it has ever quite felt like home to me.

That realization has caused me to ask a deeper question. If home isn’t simply a place, then what is it?

Psychologists have long studied something called place attachment…the emotional bond people develop with particular places. It’s fascinating because the research consistently shows that the strongest attachment isn’t usually about architecture, geography, or even beauty. It’s about meaning.

Places become home because of the stories they hold. The relationships they nurture. The memories they preserve. The version of ourselves they allow us to become.

Perhaps that’s why there are places scattered across my life that immediately awaken something deep within me.

The Heorot Pub in Muncie. The shores of our Methodist camps around Lake Webster. Beaver Dam. The Menke Compound. Silver Bay on Lake George. Brown County.

Each is different. I’ve not lived at some of these places. None contains all of my life’s memories.

Yet each carries a familiar feeling. When I’m there, something inside me exhales. The noise quiets. My soul settles. I become more fully myself.

Those places remind me that home may have less to do with ownership than belonging. Less to do with permanence than presence. Less to do with geography than grace.

Researchers who study belonging have discovered something equally important: our well-being depends not simply on having a house, but on having people with whom we feel accepted. We need relationships where we can be known without fear of rejection. We need communities where our presence matters and our absence is noticed. We need places where we don’t have to earn our worth because it has already been recognized.

Maybe that’s why loneliness feels so disorienting. You can live in the same house for thirty years and never quite feel at home if you don’t experience genuine connection. Conversely, you can spend a weekend somewhere surrounded by people who know and love you and leave feeling like you’ve been home all along.

Home is where we are welcomed. Home is where we are remembered. Home is where we can finally stop pretending.

As a pastor, I wonder if this is one of the church’s greatest callings. Long before we’re called to solve every problem or answer every theological question, perhaps we’re called to create home. A place where strangers become neighbors. Where neighbors become family. Where people who have spent years believing they don’t belong discover that there has always been a place waiting for them.

The Scriptures begin in a garden and end in a city where God dwells with humanity. In between is the story of a people constantly searching for home…wandering in deserts, living in exile, longing for promised land, yearning for return.

Maybe that’s because the deepest human longing isn’t simply for a destination. It’s for belonging.

Ultimately, I think our hearts are searching for the place where we are fully known, fully loved, and fully at peace.

Christians believe that longing finds its fulfillment in God.

St. Augustine famously wrote, “Our hearts are restless until they rest in you.”

Perhaps that’s why some places feel holy. They remind us, if only for a moment, of the home for which our souls were made.

Until then, I hope we keep creating homes wherever we can, not merely houses with walls and roofs, but communities of kindness, tables of welcome, friendships of trust, and spaces where people can breathe a little easier because they know they belong.

Because maybe home isn’t ultimately where your heart is. Maybe home is wherever your heart finally finds rest.