Things That Weren’t Said on Sunday: Get Out of God’s Way

“Do not remember the former things, or consider the things of old. I am about to do a new thing; now it springs forth! Do you not perceive it?” ~ Isaiah 43:18–19

There are some things a pastor can say on Sunday…And there are some things you probably shouldn’t say unless you want to watch half the congregation suddenly become very interested in the ceiling or the floor.

So, in the spirit of our Imagine series, I thought I’d say a few of the things that weren’t said on Sunday morning.

Isaiah says something rather startling: “Do not remember the former things, or consider the things of old.”

That can sound almost disrespectful. After all, we are people who love our history. We love our traditions. We love the things that have shaped us. We remember the people who came before us, the ministries that mattered, the hymns that formed us, the programs that touched lives, the ways we have worshiped and served and been the church.

And we should. The Christian faith is not built on amnesia.

But there is a difference between remembering the past and living in the past. There is a difference between honoring what God has done and assuming that God is only allowed to work in the ways God has worked before.

Isaiah isn’t actually telling Israel to erase its history. He’s reminding them that God’s faithfulness in the past does not mean God’s future will look exactly like the past.

In fact, Isaiah says something even more provocative: “I am about to do a new thing.”

Not I did. Not I used to. Not remember that one time? But, I am about to do. Present tense. Future possibility. Holy anticipation. God is still moving. And if we’re not careful, we can become so busy protecting what God did yesterday that we miss what God is doing today.

Churches rarely decide one morning, “Today we are going to become stuck.” It usually happens gradually. We keep doing something because we’ve always done it. We resist changing something because someone might be upset. We preserve a structure because changing it feels complicated. We keep a program because it once worked. We defend a worship style because it feels familiar. We hesitate to rethink staffing because “we’ve never done it that way.” We continue offering things primarily for the people already here while wondering why we’re not reaching the people who aren’t.

Eventually, without ever intentionally choosing it, preservation becomes the operating system. The question quietly shifts from: “What is God calling us to become?” to: “How can we make sure nothing changes too much?”

Those are very different questions. One is driven by mission. The other is driven by fear. One looks toward the future. The other looks over its shoulder. One asks, “Who is God calling us to reach?” The other asks, “But what about us?”

Here’s the uncomfortable truth: a church can be incredibly faithful and still become stuck. We can love Jesus and resist change. We can love the church and resist the future. We can have wonderful memories and still need to make difficult decisions. We can be deeply committed and still be standing in the way of the very thing God wants to do next.

There is a particularly powerful force in church life known as “But we’ve always done it that way.” It is remarkably adaptable. It can defend almost anything. It has been used to protect buildings, programs, committees, worship styles, staffing structures, budgets, furniture, schedules, bulletin formats, leadership models, and probably at least one casserole recipe.

Let’s be honest: sometimes “we’ve always done it that way” is a perfectly legitimate reason to keep doing something. Sometimes tradition carries wisdom. Sometimes continuity matters. Sometimes the old way really is the best way.

But sometimes the phrase isn’t actually an argument. It’s just fear wearing a cardigan. If we allow fear to make every decision, we shouldn’t be surprised when our church stops moving.

Our denomination gives us a remarkably clear mission: to make disciples of Jesus Christ for the transformation of the world.

At First Wayne Street, we believe we make disciples as we love God, love people, and serve together. We are becoming a church where everyone can belong, grow, serve, and encounter the transforming love of Jesus Christ. 

Those aren’t decorative statements. They’re not words to print on a banner, put on a website, or recite at a leadership retreat before returning to business as usual.  They’re supposed to function like a compass. They should help us decide what we do, what we stop doing, where we invest, who we reach, how we worship, how we organize ourselves, how we use our building, how we spend our money, how we staff, and how we serve our community.

If something helps us love God, love people, serve together, make disciples, pursue justice, practice peacemaking, create belonging, and become radically outwardly focused, then let’s find a way to do more of it. If something consistently prevents us from doing those things? Well, perhaps we need the courage to ask whether it still serves the mission. That’s not disrespectful. That’s discipleship.

Here’s where Isaiah gets really interesting. God says: “I am about to do a new thing; now it springs forth! Do you not perceive it?”

Notice the question. God doesn’t ask, “Would you be comfortable with it?” God doesn’t ask, “Would everyone approve?” God doesn’t ask, “Have we ever done this before?” God asks: “Do you not perceive it?”

In other words: Can you see what I’m doing? Can you recognize where I’m moving? Can you imagine something beyond what you’ve already experienced?

That’s really the question behind the Imagine sermon series.

Can we imagine a church that is not simply trying to preserve itself, but is actively participating in God’s future? 

Can we imagine worship that speaks to people who aren’t already part of us? 

Can we imagine structures that make ministry easier rather than more complicated? 

Can we imagine staffing around mission rather than around historical expectations?

Can we imagine programs designed around the people we are called to reach rather than simply the people we already have?

Can we imagine using our building in ways that bless downtown Fort Wayne?

Can we imagine a church where a young adult, a young family, an empty nester, a recent retiree, a longtime member, a person who has never been inside a church, and someone who isn’t entirely sure what they believe can all discover that there is a place for them here?

Can we imagine it?

If we can, then perhaps we are beginning to perceive what God is doing.

Just to be clear: “new thing” does not mean “everything old is bad.” We don’t need to burn the hymnals. We don’t need to bulldoze the building. We don’t need to pretend the last 150 years didn’t happen. We don’t need to become something we’re not.

Our history is part of our gift. Our traditions have formed generations of disciples. Our stories matter. Our people matter. The saints who built this church deserve our gratitude.

But the best way to honor the people who built the church is not to freeze the church exactly as they left it. 

It’s to have the same kind of courage they had. They built something for their generation. Now we have been entrusted with building something faithful for ours.

That’s not betrayal. That’s stewardship.

This may be the hardest thing to admit. Sometimes the thing standing between a church and its future isn’t the culture. It isn’t the denomination. It isn’t the economy. It isn’t downtown. It isn’t the younger generation. It isn’t technology. It isn’t even the church down the street.

Sometimes the biggest roadblock is simply our unwillingness to let go of what has become familiar.

We can become experts at identifying everything that might go wrong. We can list every reason a new idea won’t work. We can explain why another church can do something but we can’t. We can predict who will be upset. We can remember the last time something didn’t work. We can tell stories about how much better things used to be.

Eventually, we can become so good at protecting ourselves from disappointment that we also protect ourselves from possibility. That is not faith. Faith doesn’t mean we know exactly what will happen. Faith means we trust the One who does.

Maybe that’s one of the most important invitations of Imagine. Not to become trendier. Not to chase numbers. Not to change things simply because they’re old. Not to abandon who we are.

But to get out of God’s way. To loosen our grip. To stop assuming that our preferences are the same thing as God’s will. To stop confusing familiarity with faithfulness. To stop measuring every possibility by whether it makes us comfortable. To stop asking, “What will we lose?” long enough to ask, “Who might we reach?” To stop asking, “What will people think?” long enough to ask, “What is God doing?”

And maybe to have enough holy imagination to believe that the best days of this church aren’t necessarily behind us. Maybe they are ahead of us.

Isaiah continues: “I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” That’s the promise. God doesn’t simply tell us to go find our own way. God promises to make a way.

There will be uncertainty. There will be hard conversations. There will be things we have to release. There will be decisions that make some people uncomfortable. There will be moments when we wonder whether we’re getting it right. There will be things that don’t work. There will be experiments. There will be learning. There will be laughter. There will probably be a few strongly worded emails.

That’s church.

But there will also be grace. There will be new people. There will be new disciples. There will be new friendships. There will be new ministries. There will be new ways of worshiping. There will be new ways of serving. There will be people in downtown Fort Wayne who discover that the church isn’t just a building they pass on their way somewhere else. There will be people who encounter Jesus here. There will be lives transformed.

Perhaps, years from now, someone will look back at this moment and say: “I’m so glad they had the courage to move forward.”

That’s the church I want us to be. Not a church that forgets its past. Not a church that despises tradition. Not a church that changes for the sake of change. But a church that loves the past enough to learn from it, loves the present enough to engage it, and loves the future enough to prepare for it.

A church willing to say: We remember what God has done. We are grateful for what God has given us. But we are not finished. Because God isn’t finished.

So let’s imagine. Let’s listen. Let’s loosen our grip. Let’s take some holy risks. Let’s have difficult conversations when difficult conversations are necessary. Let’s celebrate what deserves celebrating. Let’s release what needs releasing. Let’s try some things. Let’s fail at some things. Let’s learn. Let’s laugh. Let’s dream. Let’s pray.

And above all, let’s pay attention. Because somewhere ahead of us, God is already doing a new thing. Hopefully our hearts, our hands, our eyes, and our minds will be open so we can perceive it. 

Maybe We Could Meet Jesus Again

I have a prayer…

I pray that Christian nationalists, and those American evangelicals who have come to identify Christianity so closely with nationalism, power, political victory, and cultural control, might someday meet Jesus.

Not the Jesus of campaign slogans. Not the Jesus of the culture war. Not the Jesus who seems perpetually angry about who is using which bathroom, who is marrying whom, or who is crossing which border.

I mean Jesus. The Jesus we actually encounter in Scripture. The Jesus who sounds remarkably like Micah 6:8: do justice, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God.

The Jesus who, when given an opportunity to explain what life in the kingdom of God looks like, preached a Sermon on the Mount filled with blessings for the poor, the grieving, the meek, the merciful, the peacemakers, and those who hunger and thirst for righteousness.

The Jesus who said, “Love your enemies.” The Jesus who told his followers to turn the other cheek. The Jesus who warned us about our own hypocrisy before giving us permission to diagnose everyone else’s. The Jesus who touched people respectable religion had pushed to the margins. The Jesus who ate with sinners. The Jesus who welcomed children. The Jesus who wept. The Jesus who forgave.

The Jesus who repeatedly seemed far more interested in how human beings treated one another than in whether they had successfully established themselves as the righteous people on the right side of every cultural argument.

And then there is Matthew 25. It is difficult to read Jesus’ words about the final judgment and come away thinking that the central question is, “Did you win the culture war?”

Jesus says the question is whether we fed the hungry. Gave drink to the thirsty. Welcomed the stranger. Clothed the naked. Cared for the sick. Visited the prisoner.

And then comes the part that should make all of us uncomfortable: “Whatever you did for one of the least of these, you did it to me.”

That sounds an awful lot like Jesus.

And here’s the awkward thing: Jesus never once mentions abortion in the canonical Gospels. He never once addresses homosexuality or same-sex relationships.

That doesn’t mean those issues are unimportant. Christians can, and do, reason from broader biblical, theological, ethical, and pastoral principles about them.

But Jesus himself spends an extraordinary amount of time talking about love, mercy, forgiveness, humility, justice, reconciliation, generosity, peacemaking, and how we treat people who are vulnerable or excluded.

Maybe we should notice that. Maybe we should be just a little suspicious when a version of Christianity becomes consumed by issues Jesus never explicitly addressed while becoming strangely quiet about the things he talked about constantly.

Maybe this is why I find myself praying for something much more radical than another political victory.

I pray for revival. But not the kind of revival that simply produces more people who vote the right way. Not the kind that fills stadiums, sells books, builds political coalitions, or gives Christians greater cultural influence.

I want a revival that actually makes us more like Jesus. A revival that makes us less obsessed with power and more committed to service. Less interested in domination and more interested in reconciliation. Less concerned with winning and more concerned with loving. Less eager to identify enemies and more willing to see the image of God in people we don’t understand. Less interested in being right and more committed to being Christlike.

That is why I struggle with the increasingly militarized language surrounding some expressions of American Christianity.

Our Secretary of Defense has spoken openly about restoring a “warrior ethos,” emphasizing lethality, deterrence, readiness, and the capacity to defeat enemies. Those are understandable concepts within the vocation of national defense.

Maybe I’m the odd man out, but I don’t want my theology to be shaped by the Pentagon.

I want my theology to be shaped by Jesus.

Jesus did not say, “Blessed are the powerful.” He said, “Blessed are the peacemakers.”

He did not say, “Blessed are those who dominate their enemies.” He said, “Love your enemies.”

He did not say, “Blessed are those who protect their status.” He repeatedly moved toward people who had none.

Jesus’ kingdom is not built through conquest. It is built through love.

That doesn’t mean Jesus was soft. He wasn’t. Jesus could be fierce. He confronted hypocrisy. He challenged religious authorities. He overturned tables. He spoke uncomfortable truths. He demanded radical obedience. But his power was cruciform.

He conquered not by killing his enemies, but by refusing to become like them. That is the kind of spiritual awakening I want.

Not a Christianity that becomes more powerful. A Christianity that becomes more faithful.

Not Christians who look more like America. Christians who look more like Jesus.

Maybe that kind of revival would change more than an election ever could. Maybe it would change the way we welcome immigrants. The way we care for the poor. The way we speak about people we disagree with. The way we respond to prisoners. The way we treat LGBTQ people. The way we care for our neighbors. The way we talk about race. The way we use wealth. The way we wield authority. The way we understand patriotism. The way we practice religion. The way we treat our enemies. The way we understand what it means to be a Christian.

And perhaps, if we experienced that kind of transformation, I could finally stop feeling like I need to introduce myself by saying: “I’m not that kind of Christian.”

I don’t want to spend the rest of my life explaining what Christianity isn’t. I want to be part of a Christianity so recognizably shaped by Jesus that people don’t have to ask.

A Christianity that does justice. Loves mercy. Walks humbly. Feeds the hungry. Welcomes the stranger. Visits the prisoner. Makes peace. Loves its enemies. Forgives extravagantly. Serves sacrificially. And follows Jesus, not because doing so will give us power over the world, but because Jesus showed us what the kingdom of God looks like.

So yes, I have a prayer. A rather audacious one.

I pray that Christian nationalists might meet Jesus. I pray that American evangelicals might meet Jesus. And, if I’m being completely honest, I pray that progressive Christians might meet Jesus too.

Because perhaps the deepest spiritual awakening we need isn’t one more battle for control. Maybe it is the rediscovery of the person at the center of our faith…Jesus.

Not the Jesus we have constructed to serve our politics. Not the Jesus we have recruited to bless our tribe. Not the Jesus we have enlisted in our cultural battles…Jesus.

The one who calls us to love God. Love our neighbor. Love our enemies. Do justice. Love mercy. Walk humbly. And become, in every possible way, more like him.

That is the revival I am praying for.

And maybe someday, if that prayer is answered, I won’t have to say, “I’m not that kind of Christian.”

No, It’s Not the Pastor’s Job

There is a passage in Ephesians that has been shaping the way I think about ministry and the church: “He gave some apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers. His purpose was to equip God’s people for the work of serving and building up the body of Christ.” (Ephesians 4:11–12, Common English Bible)

There is something important here that we can easily miss. Paul doesn’t say that God gave pastors and teachers so that they could do all the ministry. He says they were given to equip the people (or “saints” in some translations) for the work of ministry.

That is a very different vision of the church that we’ve seen take over many congregations in America.

For much of the modern American church, we developed a model of ministry that made a certain amount of sense. As churches grew, we hired people to do more and more of the work.

Need someone to lead youth ministry? Hire a youth director. Need someone to visit people in the hospital? Hire a pastor. Need someone to organize children’s programming? Hire a children’s director. Need someone to lead music? Hire a music director. Need someone to manage communications? Hire a communications person.

In many ways, this model worked. It helped churches flourish. 

As churches grew, they had more resources. More resources meant they could hire more staff. More staff meant they could offer more ministries and programs. More programs could help churches reach and serve more people.

There was nothing inherently wrong with this approach. But somewhere along the way, something else happened.

We began to subtly change our understanding of who ministry belongs to. Instead of asking, “How can all of us use our gifts to participate in the ministry of Christ?” we sometimes began asking, “Who can we hire to do this?”

When we couldn’t find enough people to volunteer, we added another staff position. The result was a church in which an increasingly small number of people, often pastors and paid staff, were responsible for an increasingly large amount of ministry.

That model could work when churches were growing, giving was strong, and staffing budgets continued to expand. But the church has entered a different season.

Today, many churches are facing declining or plateauing attendance, aging congregations, financial pressures and fewer available volunteers.

Thom S. Rainer has frequently cited research indicating that roughly 65% of churches are plateaued or declining. 70% of churches have fewer than 100 people. The median size of US congregations is around 65. The median budget is $300,000 or less. 

Whatever statistic we use, the larger reality is difficult to ignore: a significant number of American congregations are no longer growing in ways that allow them to continually add staff to meet every ministry need.

That raises an important question: What if the answer isn’t to find more people to hire? What if the answer is to rediscover something the New Testament has been telling us all along?

The church was never intended to be a place where a few professionals do ministry while everyone else watches. The church is a body. And a body needs every part.

Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 12:12: “For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ.” 

Every person has a role. Every person has something to contribute. Every person has gifts that can be used for the good of the whole.

This changes the way we think about pastoral leadership. The pastor’s job isn’t to visit every person. The pastor’s job is to help create a culture of care in which people are equipped and empowered to care for one another.

The pastor’s job isn’t to teach every class. The pastor’s job is to equip people who have the gifts, passion and calling to teach.

The pastor’s job isn’t to personally lead every ministry. The pastor’s job is to help people discover where God might be calling them to serve and then give them the tools, training, encouragement and freedom to do it.

This applies to the entire church staff. Our job isn’t to be the church’s professional doers. Our job is to be equippers, coaches, developers, connectors and encouragers.

That’s what Ephesians 4:11–12 points us toward. The goal isn’t to make the staff indispensable. The goal is to make ministry accessible to everyone.

There is another important shift we need to make. We shouldn’t think about volunteers primarily as people who fill the gaps in the church’s staffing plan. They’re not simply people we need to recruit because we need someone to do something. They are people with gifts, experiences, passions and callings that God can use.

That changes the question. Instead of: “Can you help us with this?” We might ask: “What are you passionate about? What gifts do you have? Where do you see God at work? What kind of ministry would bring you joy? How might your gifts contribute to what God is doing here?”

Those are very different conversations. I believe they lead to a very different kind of church.

I’ve become increasingly convinced that involvement has a multiplying effect. Someone may initially volunteer to greet at the door. But then they meet another volunteer. They begin to know people. They discover a place where they belong. They become invested in what happens on Sunday morning. Eventually, they might join a small group, serve in another ministry, invite a friend, participate in a mission project or begin giving more generously.

In other words, serving can become a doorway into deeper belonging. When people move from being spectators to participants, something changes. The church becomes our church rather than the church they attend. That’s important because Christian community was never meant to be something we simply consume. We are called to participate in it.

If we want to recover this biblical vision of ministry, pastors and church staff have an important responsibility. We can’t simply tell people, “We need more volunteers.” We need to build a culture in which people are recruited, equipped, empowered and appreciated.

Here are a few practices that can help.

1. Recruit people personally.

A general announcement that says, “Volunteers are needed!” rarely creates the response we hope for. People respond when someone sees something in them.

Instead of asking, “Who will help?” ask, “Have you ever thought about doing this? I think your gifts would make you really good at it.”

Personal invitation communicates something powerful: We see you. We need you. You have something to offer.

2. Start with gifts, not vacancies.

Don’t begin with, “We have a position that needs to be filled.” Begin with the person.

What do they love? What are they good at? What experiences have shaped them? What breaks their heart? Where do they feel energized?

Then look for the intersection between their gifts and the church’s mission.

3. Make serving easy to understand.

People are often reluctant to volunteer because they don’t know exactly what they’re being asked to do.

A good ministry role should have a clear purpose, reasonable expectations, appropriate training and a defined commitment.

“Come help whenever you can” is vague.

“Serve on the welcome team once every four weeks, arrive at 9:30, greet people as they arrive and help newcomers find their way” is clear.

Clarity reduces anxiety.

4. Equip people before expecting them to serve.

Ephesians doesn’t simply say mobilize the saints. It says equip the saints.

Training matters. Give people the knowledge, tools and confidence they need to succeed. Don’t throw someone into a ministry and hope they figure it out.

Good equipping says: “We’re going to help you succeed.”

5. Give people real responsibility.

If we ask people to serve but require staff approval for every little decision, we haven’t really empowered them. Trust people. Give them appropriate authority. Let them try things. Let them make mistakes. Coach rather than control.

The goal isn’t to create volunteers who carry out staff instructions. The goal is to develop ministry leaders.

6. Celebrate the ministry, not just the volunteers.

Tell the stories. Celebrate what God is doing through ordinary people.

Instead of simply saying, “Thank you to our volunteers,” tell someone about the person who was welcomed because a greeter noticed them, the child who discovered a place to belong, the homebound member who felt remembered because someone visited, or the newcomer who found a community because someone invited them to lunch.

When people see the difference their service makes, they are more likely to understand that what they’re doing isn’t merely helping the church. It is ministry.

7. Create pathways, not one-time opportunities.

Someone who serves once at a special event may have a wonderful experience. But imagine a pathway:

Discover Opportunities → Give It a Try → Begin to Serve → Grow into the Role→ Lead Others → Equip Someone Else.

That’s how a volunteer culture becomes a leadership culture.

The person who once needed someone to recruit them eventually becomes the person recruiting someone else. That’s multiplication.

None of this means that we don’t need pastors or church staff. We absolutely do. Healthy churches need gifted pastors and staff who provide leadership, theological direction, organizational support, pastoral care, creativity, administration and vision.

But perhaps our understanding of their role needs to evolve. The question isn’t: “How much ministry can our staff accomplish?” The better question is: “How many people can our staff equip to accomplish ministry?”

That’s a different measure of success. And perhaps it is closer to Paul’s vision in Ephesians 4.

The church isn’t healthiest when the pastor is exhausted because they are doing everything. The church isn’t healthiest when the staff has figured out how to keep every ministry running.

The church is healthiest when people discover that they are the church and that they have a vital role to play in its ministry.

The pastor isn’t the minister. The pastor is a minister who equips ministers.

The staff isn’t the ministry. The staff equips the ministry.

The ministry belongs to all of us.

That isn’t simply a strategy for churches facing smaller budgets or fewer staff. It is a recovery of something deeply biblical.

When every person discovers their gifts, finds their place and uses those gifts for the good of the whole, the church becomes what Christ intended it to be: a body in which every part is doing its work. And that’s a church with a lot of life in it.

The Challenge of Sentimentality

There is a particular kind of church meeting that every pastor eventually learns to fear. It begins with someone saying, “We need to have a conversation.”

This is rarely good news.

Sometimes the conversation is about something important. A budget. A staff issue. A struggling ministry. A significant decision about the future.

And sometimes the conversation is about a tablecloth.

I once served a church where an emergency meeting was called because a tablecloth had disappeared. Yes…A tablecloth.

Not an heirloom. Not a hand-embroidered masterpiece. Not something crafted by generations of church ladies whose names are now engraved somewhere in the church basement.

It was mass-produced. It was hideous. It didn’t match anything in the narthex, which is basically church language for “lobby.”  The tablecloth clashed with the carpet. It clashed with the paint. It covered a table that, as far as anyone could tell, served absolutely no useful purpose.

And yet, somehow, this tablecloth had become important. So important that its disappearance warranted a meeting.

As the conversation unfolded, we discovered that the tablecloth had been placed there in memory of someone who had died. The person who had given it and placed it there had never told anyone the story.

Suddenly, the tablecloth wasn’t a tablecloth. It was a memory. It was grief. It was love. It was a person who mattered.

That is the tricky thing about sentimentality. Sentimentality almost always has a story.

We become attached to things because they remind us of people, places, experiences and seasons of our lives that mattered. To be clear, that’s not bad. In fact, remembering is deeply biblical.

We build memorials. We tell stories. We celebrate anniversaries. We preserve photographs. We sing old songs. We remember those who came before us.

The problem isn’t remembering the past. The problem comes when remembering becomes clinging.

Churches are particularly vulnerable to this. We love to cling to “the good old days.” 

You know the ones. The sanctuary was full. The budget was comfortably met. Sunday school classes were overflowing. There were children everywhere. The choir had more people than the church has members now. Everyone knew everyone. And somehow, apparently, everyone was happier, holier and better behaved. Oh, the good old days.

There is only one problem. They probably weren’t quite that good.

If we’re honest, many of the churches that now romanticize their “golden years” were already experiencing slow, steady decline during those very years.

While the sanctuary appeared to be full, attendance may have been declining gradually. Young families may already have been leaving. The neighborhood around the church may have been changing. Patterns of worship and ministry that once worked beautifully may have already been becoming less effective.

The warning signs were there. But because the sanctuary was still reasonably full and the budget was still being met, there was little urgency to change.

Then, eventually, the decline became impossible to ignore.

So, we look backward and say, “Remember when this place was full?”

Yes. But the question we should also ask is: “What was already happening then that we failed to see?”

Nostalgia has a remarkable ability to edit history. We remember the crowded sanctuary and forget the empty seats. We remember the successful program and forget that participation had been declining for years. We remember the worship service we loved and forget that fewer and fewer people were actually attending it. We remember the charismatic pastor and forget the scandal. We remember what worked. We conveniently forget when it stopped working. 

Then we make a dangerous assumption: If it was good enough then, it must be good enough now.

But the world has changed. Our community has changed. People have changed. The church has changed. 

This is where I think sentimentality becomes more than an innocent quirk. It can become a spiritual problem.

If our attachment to the past prevents us from faithfully pursuing God’s mission in the present, something has gone wrong.

If we care more about preserving a particular worship style than helping people encounter Jesus, something has gone wrong.

If we protect a program because “we’ve always done it” even though almost no one participates anymore, something has gone wrong.

If we refuse to move furniture, repaint a room, remove a banner, replace the carpet or change the use of a space because someone might remember when it was different, something has gone wrong.

If we are more concerned about preserving our experience of church than creating opportunities for someone else to experience Christ, something has gone very wrong.

At some point, sentimentality stops being about honoring the past. It becomes about protecting ourselves from the future. That is where sentimentality can become sin.

Not because memories are bad. Not because traditions are bad. Not because old things are bad. But because the mission of the church is bigger than our memories.

There is one more detail about that tablecloth story that I love. The spouse of the person being honored eventually discovered what had happened. And do you know what they said?

They said the deceased person would have hated the tablecloth. So, the tablecloth went in the trash.

Harsh? Maybe. But also strangely liberating.

Because sometimes we assume that honoring someone’s memory means preserving everything they ever touched. It doesn’t.

Sometimes the most faithful way to honor someone’s life is to let something go.

We don’t honor the people who came before us by refusing to change anything they would recognize. We honor them by remembering why they built the church in the first place.

Most of the people we are sentimental about were not trying to create a museum. They were trying to create a ministry. They were trying to create a movement. 

They didn’t sacrifice so that we could spend the next generation protecting their furniture. They didn’t teach Sunday school so that we could endlessly preserve Sunday school exactly as they experienced it. They didn’t build sanctuaries so that future generations could admire them. 

They built because they believed the gospel mattered. They served because they believed people mattered. They gave because they believed the mission mattered.

And if we really want to honor them, perhaps the best thing we can do is have the courage to do the same.

So, what do we do with all of this? Do we throw everything away? Of course not. That would simply be another form of foolishness.

The answer isn’t to become people who despise tradition or treat everything old as irrelevant. The answer is to develop a healthy theology of stuff.

We can remember without preserving everything. We can celebrate without freezing things in place. We can honor without worshiping. We can love our history without being imprisoned by it. 

Maybe we need to ask different questions. Instead of: “How can we keep this?” we might ask: “What does this help us remember?”

Instead of: “We’ve always done it this way. Why change?” we might ask: “Does this still help us accomplish our mission?”

Instead of: “What will we lose if we change this?” we might ask: “Who might we reach if we do?”

Instead of: “But this is what we love.” we might ask: “Is our love for this thing keeping someone else from finding a place here?”

Perhaps most importantly: “Is this a bridge to the future or a roadblock to the mission?”

That last question might be worth putting on the wall of every church. Because not everything from the past needs to come with us into the future.

Some things are bridges. Some things are roadblocks.

Some things are treasures. Some things are just tablecloths.

There is a beautiful spiritual practice in remembering. We should remember the people who built our churches. Remember the sacrifices. Remember the baptisms. Remember the weddings. Remember the funerals. Remember the children who grew up here. Remember the meals, the mission trips, the choirs, the potlucks, the Christmas Eve services, the Vacation Bible Schools, the sermons, the laughter and even the ridiculous tablecloths.

We should give thanks. Tell the stories. Honor the people. Celebrate what God has done.

And then…we need to have the courage to let some things go.

Because the church was never called to preserve the past. The church was called to make disciples. To love God. To love people. To serve together. To embody the transforming love of Jesus Christ in the world that exists now.

Not the world that existed thirty years ago. Not the church that existed twenty years ago. Not the worship service we remember from our childhood.

The past deserves our gratitude. But the future deserves our faithfulness.

Perhaps one of the most faithful things a church can say is: “We are grateful for what was. We will remember those who came before us. We will celebrate the ways God has been faithful. But we will not confuse yesterday’s faithfulness with today’s calling.”

Nostalgia can tell us where we’ve been. But only vision can help us see where we’re going. And the mission is still calling.

So, remember. Give thanks. Tell the stories. Keep the things that truly matter.

And when necessary…Throw away the tablecloth.

Please, Somebody Tell the Christians We’re Allowed to Have Fun!!!

There is a particular look that some Christians have perfected.

You know the one.

The slightly furrowed brow. The solemn expression. The carefully calibrated nod during the sermon. The kind of face that says, “I am currently contemplating the weight of eternity, so please do not make me laugh.”

It is the face of someone who understands that church is serious business.

And, to be fair, it is. Jesus did die for our sins. So obviously, we should look like it. No smiling too broadly. No spontaneous laughter. Certainly, no inappropriate enthusiasm. Keep the volume down. Keep the emotions in check. And whatever you do, do not clap during worship…especially if you can’t clap on 2 & 4! 

We don’t want to get carried away or someone might think we’re having fun. And we can’t have that. After all, we’re Christians.

We are supposed to be serious, reverent, appropriate, thoughtful, intellectually respectable and just a little bit uncomfortable. Especially during worship.

If the sermon is funny, we should probably resist laughing too loudly. 

If the music is upbeat, we should probably stand there politely.

If someone gets excited, we should look at them with a look that firmly communicates, “lock it up!”

And if someone actually raises their hands? Well…we should probably have a meeting about that.

Here’s the problem with all of this: While, yes, Jesus died for our sins, sometimes we look like we have forgotten that Jesus rose from the dead.

That’s kind of a big deal. The Christian story does not end at Good Friday. We don’t gather every Sunday to commemorate the tragic death of a really nice religious teacher. We gather because the tomb is empty. We gather because death didn’t get the last word. We gather because sin doesn’t get the last word. We gather because despair doesn’t get the last word. We gather because Jesus is alive!

And yet sometimes one would think the defining theological statement of the Christian faith was: “Please remain calm throughout the gathering.”

Somewhere along the way, we’ve confused reverence with solemnity and depth with seriousness. But those aren’t the same things.

There is a time for silence. There is a time for lament. There is a time to grieve, to repent, to confess, to sit quietly in the presence of suffering.

Christianity has room for all of that.

But Christianity also has room for laughter. For celebration. For music that makes you want to move. For stories that make you laugh until you cry. For children making noise. For people singing badly but enthusiastically. For spontaneous applause. For mistakes. For warmth. For joy.

Consider the Jesus we actually encounter in the Gospels. Jesus went to dinner parties. He ate with people respectable religious folks didn’t think he should be eating with. He told stories. He used exaggeration. He talked about camels going through the eyes of needles and people swallowing camels while straining gnats. He called Herod a fox. He compared religious leaders to whitewashed tombs. He told stories about prodigal sons, lost coins, runaway sheep, dishonest managers and people throwing parties. He touched unclean people. He laughed. He cried. He celebrated.

And, apparently, when a wedding ran out of wine, Jesus decided the appropriate response was not a lecture on responsible event planning. He turned water into wine…to keep the hosts from being embarrassed AND to keep the party going. Not only that, his mother made him do it!

Now, do a little research and you’ll discover that there have been Christians trying to make the case that Jesus just made grape juice or refreshing purified water. We have apparently reached the point where we will do anything to make Jesus less fun. Because heaven forbid somebody discovers that the guy we worship actually knew how to throw a party.

With all of that, I find myself wondering, “what does our Christianity look like to people who aren’t Christians? Do they see something compelling? Do they see people who have discovered a deeper way to live? Do they see love? Hope? Generosity? Compassion? Laughter? Freedom? Joy?

Or do they see people who look perpetually annoyed that other people are enjoying themselves?

If the gospel is good news, shouldn’t there be at least some visible evidence that we’ve heard it?

Mike Yaconelli, in his book “Dangerous Wonder: The Adventure of Childlike Faith” wrote, “Christianity is not about learning how to live within the lines; Christianity is about the joy of coloring. The grace of God is preposterous enough to accept as beautiful a coloring that anyone else would reject as ugly. The grace of God sees beyond the scribbling to the heart of the scribbler – a scribbler who is similar to two thieves who hung on crosses on either side of Jesus. One of the two asked Jesus to please accept his scribbled and sloppy life into the kingdom of God and He did. Preposterous. And very good news for the rest of us scribblers.

I love that. Because perhaps we’ve spent too much time teaching people to stay inside the lines and not enough time helping them discover the joy of being alive in Christ.

Yaconelli was also fond of reminding the church that real spirituality is messy, unfinished and imperfect. In other words, faith doesn’t require us to become a collection of perfectly polished religious people.

Now, before someone writes an angry comment, I’m not arguing for shallow worship.

I’m not suggesting that every sermon needs to be a stand-up comedy routine. I’m not saying every hymn needs a drum solo. I’m not saying we should replace theology with confetti.

There is something beautiful about reverence. There are moments when the appropriate response to God is silence. There are Sundays when we need to sit with grief. There are prayers that should make us uncomfortable. There are Scriptures that should challenge us. There are moments when worship should bring us to our knees.

But here’s the thing…reverence doesn’t require joylessness. Depth doesn’t require boredom. Intellectual substance doesn’t require emotional constipation. And holiness doesn’t require looking like you just sucked on a lemon.

We can be thoughtful and joyful. Reverent and exuberant. Theologically serious and capable of laughing at ourselves.

We can sing ancient hymns and contemporary songs. We can sit in silence and clap our hands. We can pray the Psalms and dance. We can weep over the brokenness of the world and still throw a party when someone comes home.

That’s not theological inconsistency. That’s the Christian life.

In “Everybody, Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People,” author Bob Goff wrote, “When joy is a habit, love is a reflex.”

Think about that. When joy is a habit, love is a reflex.

Maybe that’s part of what we’ve forgotten. Joy isn’t just something we feel when circumstances are good. Joy is a way of seeing. A way of living. A way of saying that the resurrection has changed the way we understand the world.

Joy says: Yes, the world is broken. Yes, people are hurting. Yes, there is injustice. Yes, there is grief. Yes, there are things worth fighting for.

And yet…God is good. Love is real. Grace is bigger than our failures. Hope is stronger than despair. Jesus is alive.

That’s not childish optimism. That’s resurrection faith.

Maybe what the church needs isn’t more people trying to look holy. Maybe we need more people who actually look alive. People who laugh easily. People who welcome warmly. People who sing like they mean it. People who aren’t afraid to clap. People who can admit when they screwed something up. People who aren’t embarrassed by enthusiasm. People who aren’t afraid to tell someone, “I’m really glad you’re here.” People whose faith spills over into generosity, kindness, justice, hospitality and joy. People who have so deeply encountered the love of God that they can’t quite contain it.

Because that’s what love does. It spills over. It gets messy. It gets loud. It throws parties. It welcomes outsiders. It feeds people. It dances. It sings. It laughs. It weeps. It embraces. It celebrates.

And sometimes it probably makes the religious people nervous…which I think is great because Jesus had a habit of doing that.

So…No more boring Christians. No more uninspired worship. No more acting like enthusiasm is a spiritual defect. No more confusing a frown with holiness. No more assuming that serious faith requires a serious face. No more apologizing for joy.

Let’s be people who actually look like we believe the gospel is good news. Let’s sing. Let’s laugh. Let’s clap. Let’s celebrate. Let’s make room for the awkward, the imperfect, the exuberant and the beautifully messy. Let’s worship with our minds and our hearts and our bodies.

Let’s make our churches places where people don’t just hear about the love of God. Let’s make them places where people can actually feel it.

Because Jesus didn’t say, “By this everyone will know you are my disciples, if you maintain an appropriately solemn demeanor.”

He said: “By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” ~ John 13:35

And Jesus said: “I have said these things to you so that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be complete.” ~ John 15:11

Complete joy. Not carefully managed joy. Not appropriately subdued joy. Not please keep your joy within the approved liturgical boundaries joy. Complete joy.

So let’s be salt and light. Not lemon juice in a paper cut.

Let’s be people whose presence makes the world taste a little better and look a little brighter. Let’s be people who carry hope into the room. Let’s be people whose love is obvious. Let’s be people whose laughter isn’t an embarrassment but a testimony.

Let’s be people who live as though Easter actually happened. Because it did.

Christ is risen. So, for God’s sake, let’s smile.