“There’s No Need to Argue, Parent’s Just Don’t Understand!”

As the main cook in our family, I prefer to do our grocery shopping. I’ve found that grocery shopping is an interesting experience. Any time you have people in a centralized location, you’re bound to encounter some fascinating individuals.

The last time I went to our local grocery store, I visited the fish monger. While surveying the bountiful supply of “fresh” (which, in Indiana I believe means “previously frozen”) seafood, I encountered a rather bizarre individual.

This individual was a young mother, escorting her child to the display of seafood. What made this mother interesting was the one-way conversation that she started with her child. It went something like this,

“This is seafood. That’s a fish. That’s a shrimp. That’s a mussel. That’s a crab. And, it’s all disgusting. It’s all gross. You will never, never, never eat it.”

So, I began to wonder what inspired this strange educational experience. Could it be that this young woman was a hardcore vegetarian? Could it be that she had some religious objections to certain types of seafood and simply decided to reject them all? Did she have a bad experience with seafood in the past and it has scarred her for life?  What could create such a sense of hatred towards salmon, tilapia, scallops, and the like? I just couldn’t wrap my head around her position.

So, I did the whole “peer into the other shoppers cart” thing (this is something that I don’t normally practice, but learned from observing church folks peer into my cart when I happen to bump into them while shopping…the whole “I wonder what the youth pastor is eating and drinking” thing”).

Doing so totally wiped out the vegetarian angle. The cart was full of processed foods…chicken nuggets, pot pies, Jack’s pizza’s, frozen meatball’s, canned lasagna and ravioli, chips, soda (Mt. Dew), Pop Tarts, and so on.

The whole “peer into the cart thing” did reveal something to me. I believe that her opposition to seafood centered around the health factor. A serving of seafood is healthier than a serving of chicken nuggets dipped in honey mustard…therefore it is evil. Fish would require actual cooking (heating something up or re-heating something does not count as cooking) and therefore it is a hassle…which means it’s evil.

Of course, when she peered into my cart and saw fresh fruits, vegetables, fish, pork, and beef she probably thought I was bizarre. As much as I do not understand this woman’s opposition to seafood, I’m sure she doesn’t understand my pro-fish agenda.

Parking Wars

Recently, Emily and I have noticed that some of our neighbors have interesting interpretations of how one should park in a cul-de-sac.

Things to note: a) everyone on our street has a two-car garage; b) everyone on our street has enough room to park at least two cars in the driveway (as many folks do); c) we have ridiculously steep driveways, which makes some uncomfortable with parking in the drive); d) the biggest offender of lousy cul-de-sac parking does not have a very steep driveway.

Sometimes folks park parallel to the curb. This allows for an easy flow of traffic…as there aren’t back-ends of cars sticking out into the middle of the cul-de-sac.

Sometimes folks park perpendicular to the curb. This interrupts the flow of traffic…and it just looks silly.

In doing a bit of research this morning, it seems there are numerous people who are interested in exactly how one should park in a cul-de-sac. John Kelly had an interesting article in the Washington Post concerning this issue.

So, it appears that there really isn’t an answer. Do you parallel park? Do you park in a perpendicular manner? Or do you just utilize your garage and driveway?

Oh, the things that boggle the mind!

Wisdom from Lil Wayne

While reading the Lil Wayne interview in the latest issue of Rolling Stone, I found just a small piece of wisdom.

After briefly talking about migraines that seem to be a side effect of an accidentally shooting, Wayne said, “We’re here to live. We’re here to do, we’re here to be. And this here, this is what I’m doing, so I’m gonna do it. Because when it’s over, it’s over.”

So, I’m reading those words and found myself thinking, “Wow! Isn’t that what we say often say in the church? We’re here to live…we’re here to do…we’re here to be.”

We continually challenge people to discover what God is calling them to do…and then do it. We challenge people with the idea that life isn’t about sitting back and waiting for that one day, “when we all get to heaven.” We attempt to usher people toward action…to live…to do…to be.

The point where the church would disagree with Wayne is when he says, “When it’s over, it’s over.” The church would most likely proclaim, “when it’s over, it’s only beginning.”

Lil Wayne seems to understand that life is for living. Living is done best when we do what God has uniquely designed us to do. Living is done best when we attempt to become the people God desires us to be.

So, this morning, I find myself encouraged (by Lil Wayne, of all sources) to get out there and live, and do, and be.

Talk to Your Loved Ones

Over the years, I’ve found that one of the leading causes of broken relationships is a lack of communication. Whether it’s a friendship, marriage, or a relationship between family members (parent/child), failing to communicate can often lead to stagnant relationships. Without taking steps to correct a breakdown of communication, one can find the relationship ultimately ceasing to exist.

Last night, I was reminded of this while having dinner with my family. There we were in a restaurant talking about a wide array of topics. I noticed other groups of people engaged in conversation.

Then, towards the end of our meal, I observed a teenager and a parent sitting quietly at a table. The mother was reading a book. The daughter was texting. As far as I could tell, they never even looked at one another. Now, it’d be presumptuous to assume that this was normal for the pair. For all I know, they could have had a lengthy conversation before arriving at the restaurant. But, it appeared as though they had no desire to communicate with one another.

The teenager texting away, ignoring her mother, is fairly typical these days. However, what struck me the most was the apparent surrender of the parent. It appeared that she had accepted this pattern of non-communication as normal. By reading a book rather than attempting to engage her daughter in a conversation over dinner, it seemed like she had given up. And, if I were the child, it would have given me the message that my parent just did not care.

So, I was reminded of the importance of communicating with the ones you love. I have let numerous friendships fall apart because I was simply too lazy and self-consumed to take the time to make a call or send a message. Today, my desire is to correct that…to make it a point to communicate with those important people in my lives.

And, what lengths are you willing to go through in order to communicate with those you love? Are you willing to give up some of your personal time to make time for a friend? Are you willing to pick up your cell phone and text your child?

This week, take some time to engage in a conversation with those who are most important to you.